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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look, if you think it would give her pleasure to be upsetting you, don't let it upset you.

She sounds odd.  But honestly, what does it matter?  Who cares if she shows people pics of your possessions?  What happens?  A group of people you don't know nor care to know gets a chuckle.  It has no bearing on you whatsoever.

As someone once wisely sang, let it go.

Obviously the bigger issue is the relationship with the grandkids.  This is also, sadly, not your battle to fight.  She either chooses a relationship or not.  Don't let it get to you, and help your child, as your child grows, to understand that people are different and you don't know why thy do the things they do but it doesn't matter.  [/quote]

OP here.  We absolutely teach our small DCs that everyone is different, and how boring would it be if everyone were the same.  MIL takes it as a personal affront, somehow.  It's all about her.

DCs are old enough to realize that MIL does not bother with them.  They know she is always with the other grandchildren, and that she is odd.  But they don't know what is wrong with her, nor do I speculate.

Should I tell MIL that it is not all about her, she can't just go into people's houses and photograph their stuff?  I don't feel like [b]I should defend how I live, whether my stuff is old or ne[/b]w, clean or dirty, etc.  DH and I are grown ups, we pay for our own stuff, etc.  to come in here and disregard our presence and our feelings is just wrong.  If I don't say something, I don't want my children to learn that it is okay for people to treat you this way in your own house.  It is ridiculous that this is even an issue, but MIL has made it an issue, and now I have to deal with her nonsense.

It does seem like some PPs are looking to judge, like MIL?

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This is what i don't get - how are you being asked to defend how you live?  She comes in and photos your stuff, eh, what does it matter?  Who cares?  She takes it and does whatever weird or non weird thing with the photos - how does that impact you?  I don't get it.

The title of your post is about the photography.  You posts talk about the way she treats your kids.  I'm just wondering why/how the two are linked?  I get being upset by her not treating her grandkids well.  I don't get how photographing the furniture is anything other than a weird quirk.

Where is your husband in all this?  If this were me, I'd just shrug my shoulders and say, wow, she's weird.  And then I'd talk with my husband about a strategy to deal with her weirdness and how it impacts or not the kids.  And that's about it.  I'm not advocating being a doormat - I'm just saying people are wackos.  [/quote]

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