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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whoa, I cannot believe some of the comments on this thread! Daydreaming is unacceptable. Zero screen time is the only way to proceed. It's very likely "something" and likely ADHD.

I don't understand why you have taken away all video game time. Have you seen all the girl programmers and gamers? Maybe that IS her thing.

Agree that if she likes cooking you could follow it up.

Daydreaming as troublesome? That is PRECISELY how some creatives work. I was/am a huge daydreamer as is one of my sons, who also loves video games. I will suggest to him that after a time he needs to write those down (as do I) as that is the only way to move your ideas forward.

I didn't read closely enough to see how she was lacking empathy, but are you sure?

Also be very careful when trying to "diagnose" or "correct" your kid. We were concerned about school fit for our son that I mentioned, and we had him do the WISC. His scores came back horrible and the psychologist tried to convince us that he had ADHD. We were shocked, this was not our son. We spoke to his teacher and a counselor and they, too, were shocked and then went through all the benchmarks and confirmed that he was fine. [b]He had also scored 99% on the school's standardized tests the week prior [/b](after the WISC score stated would indicate he couldn't keep up with classwork). I'm not saying that your daughter doesn't have ADHD, but if you do get any kind of analysis, I would get a second and third opinion.

Finally, I'm going to end how you started....that a lot of it is your problem. Could it just be that this really is about you? I'm not saying you can't nudge your kid, or change how your family spends time. I even know how it can be difficult when your kid is not how like you or how you envisioned. But the title of your post is, "Need help with my attitude..." not "My daughter is addicted to video games and might have ADHD." I think that's telling. GL![/quote]

I have inattentive ADHD & generally scored in the 99th percentile on standardized tests (without extra time or any other accommodations as I wasn't diagnosed until early adulthood). I also got straight As all through school & graduated summa cum laude from Columbia prior to being diagnosed. On the other hand, I was constantly loosing & forgetting things, was yelled by several elementary & middle school teachers for daydreaming in class, was sometimes perceived as rude because I would "space out" during conversations or fail to notice when somebody I knew said hello to me, ran late quite often because I would start doing or thinking about something & completely lose track of time, & was a terrible driver because I couldn't stay focused on the road.  My life became immeasurably less frustrating once I was properly diagnosed & prescribed Adderall.

I'm [b]not[/b] saying that the PP's son has ADHD -- it sounds like the psychologist may well have been off the mark in diagnosing him--  or that all daydreaming is negative. Daydreaming can be wonderful as long as one if ale to keep themselves from doing it at the wrong time (i.e. during a lesson in class, while driving, watching kids, etc.)! I'm just pointing out that doing well in school & on standardized tests are not mutually exclusive with ADHD & that having an undiagnosed learning disability such as inattentive ADHD can negatively one's life even if he or she is succeeding academically.  [/quote]

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