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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I've been in your shoes and have a few bits of advice:

- Do not make any decisions today or tomorrow.  Give yourself the time you need to process.  However long that is perfectly fine.

- I would not share this with family.  I think at this early stage in your marriage, you would get a lot of "it was before you were engaged/married" excuses on his behalf. That doesn't matter - what matters is what is acceptable to you. (And you likely do not know that yet.)

- I would share this information with a friend - an old, close friend who has always been on your side but can call you on BS when needed.  Someone who will support you regardless of your decisions moving forward.

- While there is some comfort now in having complete access to all of his accounts/phones/etc.  Eventually, it will become a tiresome chore and it will be an activity that will perpetually keep you on edge.  For me, it was that realization that was the clincher in deciding to end my marriage.  I knew I could never trust him again and I didn't want to live my life waiting for the other shoe to drop.  Other couples have had success in rebuilding trust.  That is not something I could do.

- Take care of yourself.  Eat right, take walks, whatever you need to do to feel sane that is healthy.

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