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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are about 30 mins to airport.  I am a FTM so maybe I don't get this, but there's no way I could quickly just feed, burp, and change the baby. The baby eats on his timeline. It can take him 10 min or 40 mins to finish a bottle. He also wakes up on his timeline. Although we are a 30 min drive I wanted to leave an hour early bc I don't know the way that well and it was dark and raining and I was driving my moms car.  Also wanted to make sure I was there on time so she wouldn't be waiting w toddler. As it was, her flight was a little delayed so 30 min drive plus 20 min wait, plus 30 min drive means an hour and 20 min of angry uncomfotanle baby. Again maybe there is something I'm missing here as a FTM but I didn't think taking baby with me was reasonable.  Yes I am an "only daughter" and maybe that has something to do with it. But also I was here all week last week and I see how darn old my mom looks and feels. She still works almost full time running her own business.  And BIL and SIL, when they visit, like to drink wine and get hungover.  Before a night of drinking they'd say to my mom-you're waking up with the baby right?" And then they get wasted. So maybe it's a combination of only daughter competition plus I feel they are truly taking advantage of my moms kind heart. I do work ft at a salary job and have a second income producing revenue business of my own as well. I'm currently on maternity leave for the salary job but working the second job. [/quote]

You're a full-time Mom with a 10-week old and a mom to help you all week.  BFD. Your SIL works full-time, flew cross-country solo and is working. All while trying to get much needed sleep.  You sound pathetic OP. I'm feel SO sorry for your SIL that she has to add your craziness to her list of things to deal with.  [/quote]

What does she have to deal with? She took the red eye. It's over now. She's basically dumped my nephew on grandma. And guess what I realized today. My mom and I worked all day to take care of the house and babies and both of us worked too.  We even had surprise guests and just finished cleaning up after them. Did SIL help? Nope? That fine if you are a guest. But the way I grew up children are not guests.  So you can have your pick- be a daughter and help mom out, or be a guest and do your own thing.  But please don't be a guest, expect full time day care out of my mom, and expect me not to be pissed off about it. [/quote]

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