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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are being a prima donna, OP.   You knew that your mother had agreed to watch your nephew all day and you still woke your mother up at 4:30am.  There are these new-fangled devices called cell phones.  You call your SIL's cell, leave her a message that it's taking you longer than expected to get out of the house and you'll be there 30 minutes after you originally agreed.  You'll call her when you enter the airport drive so she can come out to the curb to meet her.  Then you sit down, feed your child, burp the child, change the child and put the child in the car seat, then go to the airport.

You are the one responsible for exhausting your mother, not your SIL.  Grow up and be a responsible family member.  SIL could not change her plans, stay up later, or just be coherent on a 1 hour nap instead of sleeping.  You, on the other hand could have been more considerate and mature about the entire thing.[/quote]

Op here. Bc I can't imagine doing this to someone at 6 am. Maybe a better option would have been to pay for a car service. My parents are from another country though and my dad wouldn't have permitted that-he would have gone himself in order to prevent that (and he's quite old and in poor health). [/quote]

I'm the PP you are responding to.  Yes, I am the child of immigrant parents too.  I understand the sentiment, but the 30-45 minutes you need to feed and change the baby to take her with you is significantly better than having your elderly mother get up a couple of hours early, then try to take care of a 2.5 yo toddler for 8-10 hours, or worse making your SIL take care of her child while sleep-deprived.  Many, many very dangerous careless mistakes are made by those who go for too long without sleep.

I personally think that the option you chose was selfish and irresponsible.  You chose to wake up your mother, the complain about your SIL needing sleep.  In your scenario, then the best option might have been to wake your mother up at 4:30, pick up your SIL and nephew at the airport, come home and send both your mother and SIL back to bed and then you watch the infant and toddler by yourself for 4-5 hours so that everyone can get the sleep they need.  And, yes, it may not be easy, but it is certainly possible for one person to take care of two children at the same time. [/quote]

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