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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op again. I'm in tears. I'm not sure it's just pms hormones or if it's because I'm realizing I've been living in denial for a decade, and that perhaps I did marry the wrong guy, and I'm only realizing it after having two children with him.  I've always spoken highly of him to everyone close to me.  I've even been in therapy before and I've always painted him as a really good guy to my therapist, that he was perfectly normal and that there was something wrong with me that I needed to fix.

Does it really sound that bad?  Consider that you are just hearing the bad parts here. There are good parts too, although they seem fewer now than before. Also, you're hearing one perspective. I was a little shocked at the responses.... I honestly did not expect it.  The mere thought of putting the kids through divorce is breaking my heart right now.

When our older child was younger, we used to put on act as if we were parents in love with each other. Because I wanted dc to see that her parents loved each other.  But I can't bring myself to do it anymore, at least not well. [/quote]
It actually does sound bad. I'm so sorry, I don't want to beat up on you.  But your husband's behavior is all total bullshit.  What do you mean he doesn't help you because he doesn't want to send a message to his daughter that women are weak?  Weakness has nothing to do with carrying grocery bags.  Look, every time we grocery shop, my DH makes our 4-year old son carry at least one bag ON PRINCIPLE because "you must help mama because she's a girl and girls don't carry heavy stuff, you are a man, and men carry heavy stuff".  Seriously.  It's not about weakness. You're supposed to want to make it easier for the person you love, not harder. [/quote]

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