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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anon letter by snail mail to AD. let the school decide. Leave your son's name out of it. Honor code is a BIG deal in some schools. probably won't result in much -- but she should not have lied. some other, more deserving student may have been rejected in favor of this girls deceit. Ignore the haters and do what is right. waitlist movement.[/quote]

Plus I think it will remind the school to fact check and not take what kids put on their apps as the gospel truth. This is no different than how future employers would treat the situation.[/quote]

Again, this approach is not to be taken lightly as it may result in the young lady having her admission rescinded at some point when she either did not apply to other colleges (if it was EA), or when she has already turned down her other options (if the matter is not resolved until summer).

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But she chose to misrepresent her experience - she could have accurately communicated what she did and live with the results.  She was the one who decided to lie - but if she gets caught in the lie someone else is to blame?
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No, but there are several ways to be "caught in the lie", some with potentially more severe and lasting consequences than others.

Option #1: The young man could speak directly to the young woman, inform her that he has caught her in a lie, discuss the consequences of that lie, and ask her to correct it immediately.  The young woman is mortified to have been caught in the lie, apologizes for the lie, corrects the lie, and learns not to lie again because the next time might result in a more severe consequence.

Option #2:  The young man could speak directly to a high school teacher, adviser, administration, or counselor, who in turn approaches the young woman about her lie.  The young woman is doubly mortified, because not only has she been caught in the lie, but her standing is also rightly diminished in the eyes of those beloved teachers and counselors at her high school who had previously thought of her as one of their best students.  Her parents are livid, as the school has brought them into the meeting also!  The young woman apologizes for the lie, corrects the lie, and learns never, ever to lie again because the next time will certainly result in a life-altering consequence.

Option #3:  The young man can anonymously contact the university to which the young woman has been admitted.  The young woman is devastated because she has been caught in the lie, and it has almost certainly resulted in the young woman's admission to the university being rescinded with no back up options for her.  This is a life-changing, potentially life-altering, consequence that the young woman will never forget.  She corrects the lie, and learns never, ever to lie again because she has hit rock bottom.

The young man will have to decide which "caught-in-the-lie" punishment befits the young woman's crime in this case.[/quote]

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