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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New poster here.  I get sad being an only child.  I'm an only child and my parents live on the West Coast (they retired out there).  I have no other family--well I do have lots of cousins and aunts and uncles but they are not interested in a relationship with me and they all live thousands of miles away.  It is a lonely, lonely place to be.  We spend every holiday alone and it sucks.  My DH's family is dysfunctional and awful and we have very little relationship with them other than his mother.  Besides his mother they have not met our child.

We are new to this area and have no social support/social network.  I've made a few friends but no one who is friends who are like family.

Anyhow, we have one child and plan to have another.  I was so lonely as a child (we had no local family growing up so I didn't grow up with cousins).  But I am 100 times lonelier as an adult, mainly due to having no siblings or relationships with family, and my parents living so far away.  I don't want our child to be lonely like I was.  So if we can have another child I would like to.

Personally, given my experiences as an only child, I think if you don't have local family that your child can grow up with and be close to then it's very important that the child have a sibling.

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I was wondering when Sad Mom with Parents on the West Coast would post!!! I hope you are getting some help to deal with your awful, lonely childhood. But your story is not typical of most only children (cold parents, no holiday celebrations, etc)[/quote]

Yup, Sad mom here.  I just wanted to share my experience.  Being an only could be okay if the child grows up with lots of local family around.  I didn't have that.  In addition, my father worked 70 hour weeks and was never around.  So it was just me and my mother most of the time.  If there is no local family, it's just a lonely, lonely childhood.  And I had a lot of friends as a child and went to school, camp, etc. and I still felt lonely most of the time.  That loneliness has turned chronic as an adult and I feel sad every day about this.  I am seeing a therapist to help with this issue.  But the reality is that it's hard to make friends who are like family and spending evrey holiday alone is just depressing.[/quote]

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