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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an AA woman.  Who cares whether people think your child was born out of wedlock?  Why are people even thinking about this?

I did not change my name when we first got married, but changed it later.  I like having our names the same because we adopted our kids, so it's a point of commonality.  Otherwise, would. not. care.  Do what feels right for you. People who are going to make assumptions about who you are will just find some other basis for their assumptions.[/quote]

Truth be told, it does impact they way that people deal with you and your children.  I could not care less about how people deal with me, [b]but in my case, certain things were done at daycare that directly impacted my DD[/b].  [/quote]

Really??? Like what?!?!?[/quote]

Sorry - been in meetings all day.

Let me preface it by saying that my DH works odd hours so I was doing 90% of daycare pickups and such.  So given that they rarely saw DH and my daughter and I had different last names, things ran amok and some crazy assumptions were made .  The one example where I raised holy hell is [[b]b]DD was not given an invite to the daycare's Father's Day program. The "teacher" thought that it would hurt her feelings to get an invitation on the assumption that her father wasn't around. [/b] Another was another teacher "forgetting" to invite DH to the Donuts with Dad activity.[/b]  So, most of it was the ignorance of 2-3 people at the daycare.  We moved DD, but at the same time I thought it would be easier on all of us to carry the same name.  I ended up hypenating at DH's suggestion. [/quote]

That is absurd! I am so sorry that you had to go through that! [/quote]

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