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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents divorced three years ago. When all was settled, dad's business liquidated, and house was sold, they each walked away with a little under 200k.  My mom used maybe 30k as a down payment on the condo where she's been living. We don't really know about the rest, but we're pretty sure she gave quite a bit of it away to a "friend" and she outspends her income, so I'm not sure there's any money left. She won't talk about it.

Anyway, she's been having problems at work, and she is planning to sell the condo, quit her job, and move in with us. She plans to find a job when she arrives here (she lives in another city now) but her prospects aren't good and she was unsuccessful a few years ago when she first tried finding another job. She is a nurse, but has[b] only an associate's [/b]and has been working as a school nurse (another state, where schools do have nurses) for the past 12 years.

She will receive a small pension from her old job but it is less than 1k and she needs health insurance.
Also part of the deal my parents made was that my college age sister would remain on my mom's health insurance, and my mom would provide my sister with a place to live during summers, etc. Mom pays nothing, and is not willing to contribute toward my sister's tuition, ever, and has said so. My dad paid it, even though he was pretty much unemployed for 2 years.

We are willing and able to provide room and board. She is willing to drop off and pick up our 2 kids from school, which will save us from having to pay SACC. I'm not even working now, but probably will be soon, and with a bad commute. DH's schedule and commute aren't so bad but sometimes he travels, so having backup would be great.

I'm really worried though, that my mom will quit her job, move in with us, not find a job, and never leave. She has offered us money toward a DP when we buy, but I don't want to take it because it comes with too many strings. On the other hand, we would be able to buy her out, and maybe this small amount of money would be safer that way, rather than being quickly burned through.

I am my mom's least favorite and least successful child (I have 3 siblings) and I find it odd that she expects I will want to take care of her for the rest of her life. Judging from family genetics, she will likely live well into her 80s and maybe 90s. My siblings will likely be in a position to be able to help out financially. I really just am not sure I want her living with us.

Is this just totally a bad idea? Should I tell her not to come? Even if it's officially a "trial period", what if we get to that end date and things are not working, and she has no job, no money...[/quote]

Sorry OP, I wanted to like and offer support, but once you decided to insult RN's with ONLY an ADN, you lost me.  I make far more with my ADN than my BS degreed police officer husband makes.  So suck it OP[/quote]

I'm an RN too, don't be so sensitive. She was perhaps saying that her Mom can't get a job in administration.[/quote]

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