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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have three small kids, the rule should be that any adult in the house for more than 3 days is either helping or leaving (or over 80-- they get a pass).  You already have three people to care for. Yes you can include them in your grocery runs, but they need to contribute to childcare, cleaning, cooking.  You aren't the caterer.  [/quote]
WTF??[/quote]

I sort of agree.  Able bodied guests staying beyond a day or two are usually willing to pitch in and help out (at least when I've been in that situation).  I'm not talking about doing deep cleaning in the bathrooms but loading/unloading the dishwasher, clearing the table, etc.

This idea that hosts should do ALL of the work, provide all the food/entertainment while their multi day, able bodied guests all sit back and not offer to lift a finger is foreign to me.  Not the way I was raised..[/quote]
While that is generally the way things happen, the way pp put it was entitled and snotty.
I see my parents and in laws as family. Do they generally clean up after tbemsves, cook a meal here and there or watch the kids, yes.
But am I waiting with baited breath to jump in the chance to give them a duty to earn their keep ?
Were they doing that when they fed and clothed us when we were kids?[/quote]

I think pp's point was that her hands are already full taking care of 3 little guests.  If able bodied adult guests wish to stay in her house beyond 2 or 3 days they can expect to help out.  I don't think that's entitled at all.  It's basic common courtesy.  It isn't right to treat a young mother like the nanny, cook, housekeeper while you sit back and don't lift a finger.  I agree that very few guests would do that so usually not an issue but if you are on DCUM long enough you see that some folks get the house guests from he** who think their only job is to grace their hosts with their presence.[/quote]

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