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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you're my guest I pay for everything. I appreciate it if offered help but not expecting any help. I would never agree to any long term stay unless I was prepared to fund it.

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We're prepared to provide 100% for our guests (up to a point) but realize that they may prefer to have bagels/poptarts/fruit/yogurt in the morning instead of the bacon & eggs that we're cooking or the cereal bars that we're eating. It's fine if they want to pick some items up for themselves to eat when they want to eat them.  Of course they are welcomed to the food in our pantry/fridge but sometimes what we have on hand does not appeal to them.  That's o.k., get what you like.[/quote]

I just get the things they want want to have on hand when they arrive.  [/quote]

We have different stores and they don't always stock their brands of usual foods.  So having on hand what they like and are used to isn't always possible (we learned this when we moved to our new area) and they may actually enjoy seeing the different options available at our stores.  Plus making a quick run to the grocery store makes it easy for them to contribute a little something w/o adding up to $$$...

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I would go to the fourth store before the come and have it on hand when they arrive, they can go with you with it runs out of need be.  If you are already going to three stores for yourself, it isn't too much to go to a fourth one .   If hosting parents is that big of a burden on your budget, there are other less passive aggressive ways to get there.[/quote]

Passive aggressive?  Really?? I guess I'm lucky that my own relatives would never expect (or want) me to search 4 different stores for a particular brand of bread or whatever. Nor would they want to have to go to 4 different stores to restock items when things ran out.  Not everything has to be an enormous pain, lol.  One group store run - you should try it.[/quote]

Now you are being over dramatic. You already posted that you normally go to three stores for your own stuff, one more isn't a huge burden. "Restocking" is a normal part of life.  Really, step back and breathe.  From what you have posted, For whatever reason, your ILs rub you the wrong way as a result, everything you have to do for them becomes a huge deal because you don't want them there in the first place. IME, people like going to extra mile for people they love.  This isn't about buying someone's special bread, there is something else driving it.  Get a therapist, figure it out and draw your boundaries.  [/quote]

No.  I never said that I normally go to three different stores.  I was responding to the poster who said that they did that and that going to a 4th was no big deal for them.  [/quote]

Also, what happens if you search high and low for MIL's favorite oatmeal but can't find it.  You have everything else on hand that everyone else wants, just not that oatmeal for MIL.  Does that mean that you have a HUGE issue with MIL?  Should she start wondering what she did to offend to you?  Or does it mean that your danged store(s) doesn't carry her danged oatmeal?  Some things just really are not and should never be that complicated.  Just take MIL to the store and let her pick out something else - so easy.

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