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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not a sleepover party where there is a group of girls in attendance.  You are talking about 2 girls.

The point is most people will not let their child have a sleepover with someone with whom there could be potential mutual attraction. I am not sure why the rules change b/c the child in question is gay.

Would I let my straight daughter have a sleep over with a boy, even if she said she wasn't attracted to him.  Nope!  Therefore how is it homophobic to say I would not let her have a sleep over with another lesbian, even if she wasn't attracted to her.

It has to be the same rules regardless of sexual orientation.  [/quote]

I guess the point is that it seems like what you're suggesting is that lesbians cannot have platonic women friends, and that girls cannot have platonic male friends (and the reverse). So my question was, are you simply closing the door on all situations where there is the potential for sexual activity? I had a lot of male friends that I was not attracted to and did not get intimate with. I also had lesbian friends sleep over, solo, and we did not hook up, even though I am bisexual. The assumption seems to be that anything outside heteronormative = slutty. That's not the case.[/quote]

These are 14 year old kids.  No one but you used the word slutty.  All I have said all along is that I would apply the SAME rules regardless of DDs sexual preference.   
No guys sleeping over for my straight daughter and no lesbians sleeping over for my lesbian daughter.

Do I think every guy wants to hook up with every girl, or every lesbian wants to hook up with each other.  Of course not.  But again these kids are 14 so I think the parents have the right to ask questions before agreeing to a sleepover.

And as far as keeping the same rules, if my daughter were straight I would let a her gay male friend sleep over and if she were a lesbian I would let her straight friend sleep over.

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