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[quote=Anonymous]I think that our culture goes out of its way to sexualize boys early. Boys are taught "Be a man" and masculinity = virility. You hear about people like Chris Brown, who became sexually active at like 8 years old with an older girl, and he does not consider that to be rape, statutory or otherwise. He doesn't consider it to be child abuse. Boys are taught that they should feel proud of their sexual exploits and ashamed if they are not sexually active. There is little accommodation made for boys wanting to say no, from the suggestion that teenage boys never think about anything other than sex and therefore should not be trusted around teenage girls to the reality that male victims who report are treated even worse than female victims are.

I think that this culture contributes to there likely being more female rape victims overall than male rape victims, both because men are less likely to treat unwanted sexual encounters as rape and also because men are socialized to be sexually aggressive and may be, as a result of that socialization, more likely to be sexually coercive themselves.

I say this as a married 34yo woman who has ended up having sex I did not want and regretted not being more forceful with my "no" than I was, including with my former husband.[/quote]

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