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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, how old were you when you had kids?

I don't have kids, but it kinda wonder if you were low 30s or younger.

If you'd made it to my age, thirty nine, without kids or a husband, you might be able to look back at your life with less rosy colored glasses.

Being single and childless in your twenties is awesome.

As you get older, not so much. It's a little lonely.

That said, I'm kinda amazed by parents. It does look really hard and exhausting.[/quote]

speak for yourself.  I'm 38, no kids.  i've had a couple of miscarriages and ultimately decided that I actually like not having children.  (the miscarriages were still devastating, but the reality is i'm not a kid person and the anxiety i had about all of that went away when i started giving up on the notion of having kids.)

I am married, but some days, I totally miss living alone.  (i lived alone into my 30s, so , no, I'm not idealizing some 20s awesome life.)  But I've always been an introvert and have always enjoyed my alone time.

I think that is key.  Some PPs say "well lots of people have kids and jobs and they don't hate every day."  But there are lots of different personalities.  Some people don't like that much people interaction -- a full day at work with other people and their issues/needs/wants, coming home to a houseful of other people and their issues/needs/wants.  Never having much time when you're not surrounded by other people and their issues/needs/wants that you are under obligation to deal with.

Some people get exhausted by too much interpersonal interaction -- even with people they love and care about.  I think those people have a much tougher time having kids.[/quote]

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