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[quote=Anonymous][quote]OP, I've done this, but cleared it with my husband first. I'd had fantasies about women for a long time, and there was a friend to whom I was attracted (she was also married). My husband knew she and I were close, and he'd tease me about being attracted to her. When we were discussing a trip I was planning to take with her and some other friends, I asked him how he'd feel if something happened between her and I - and he told me he'd be fine with it. So, I did, on that trip and then again a few months later. After the second time my husband asked me some questions about it, and decided he actually wasn't as ok with it as he thought he would be. So, that was the end of my sexual relationship with her (though we remain friends).

My husband and I aren't prudish, but we're definitely not an anything-goes kind of couple either. I think the idea of me having sex with another woman just didn't feel threatening to my husband, because he and I both knew what it was - experimentation for fun - and that I wasn't going anywhere.

So, I guess my perspective would be: talk to your husband about it, tell him what you want and why, and see how he reacts. I think that's a much better approach than sneaking around, especially given what you described.

For what it's worth, my experimentation with my friend was a lot of fun, but it definitely confirmed for me that I am primarily attracted to men. The newness of it all was exciting and interesting, but I never felt the same intense arousal with her that I've felt with men. It was different. In that since especially I'm glad that I had the chance to try it... now I can think of women as attractive and potentially interesting sexual partners, but not realy wonder what I'm missing or crave trying it out the way I did before.[/quote]

Not the OP but thank you for sharing this. I have always been curious about sleeping with a woman, so I found your experience very insightful. [/quote]

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