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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes you do things because it is the right thing--even if you don't want to do it. You do it because it is the mature thing, the compassionate thing, the respectful thing. It isn't always about you. In this case, it would have been for his mom. Sad that some many on this board only think only of themselves.[/quote]

Ridiculous, because the son did not say "i don't want to go" or "I don't care." He said he can't get excused from work [b]so soon after his previous absence[/b]. And there is absolutely no credible evidence that he is somehow making this up. This is a mature person who takes his responsibilities seriously -- not someone who thinks only of himself. What if his boss orcoworkers were posting that every week in a row, some kid needed leave for [b]some lousy excuse like his grandmother's funeral [/b]-- the week after he went on vacation? You would eat him for lunch![/quote]

First of all, HE did not say he couldn't get off so soon after his last absence.  People in the thread are simply speculating that.

And second-- for real?  His grandmother's funeral is a "lousy excuse?"

Any employer who doesn't let his employee an afternoon off work to go to his grandparent's funeral is a straight-up asshole that I wouldn't want to work for, anyway.  And I can't imagine that this 21 year old is so indispensable at his job that he can't get a day off to go to a funeral.  [/quote]

Amen to that!  I find it hard to believe he couldn't get time off for his grandmother's funeral.  I also wouldn't want to be married to someone who wouldn't go to a funeral.  My husband had never been.  His parents always went but didn't take the kids.  When his best friends Mom died I told him to go. It was outside Philadelpha and I told him he had to go.  He did and was happy he did.  You go for the living.  To comfort them, to say I'm sorry for your loss.  That is what decent people do.  They show up.  Even when it is inconvenient or they are uncomfotable or afraid.  He's 21. I think he can muster the courage and go.[/quote]

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