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[quote=Anonymous]Let me start by saying I did not go to Penn State.  I went to a college with a high percentage of students in fraternities/sororities, big emphasis on sports, located in a college town.  I understand OP's concerns because I have similar concerns when my AA daughters start looking at colleges. I think your best bet to get answers is to have your dd visit the campus, talk to kids from her high school that have gone there, see clubs on campus that follow her interest, find out if there are any organized activities that would interest your daughter or community living groups for people that are not in Greek life,  and yes try to meet up with the cultural group for South Asians on campus and have dd hear their experiences.

I have mixed emotions about my college experience socially.  I do feel like the huge emphasis on rushing 2nd semester of freshman year divided me from many of my classmates.  In the beginning, your social group is mostly your dorm and who lives near you.  Almost every single girl on my hall rushed. I did end up hanging out more with people I met thru the Black Student Alliance.  I ended up closest with people that shared my ethnic background that are also a good fit personality wise. I guess to my school's credit there were enough people that I did have a choice.  It was probably one of the few times I had the luxury of really finding friends that our personalities were a good match and we had similar experiences/background.  So for the friends, I say it was worth it.

We had a saying that you had to make your own fun because there really wasn't much of a social life outside of Greek parties.  Luckily, my friends definately knew how to have fun.  That said, dating life was horrible. Back then, interracial dating in campus wasn't that common and within my ethnic group the numbers were not on my side even before you add in finding someone compatible.  Things worked out for me in the end even as far as meeting my husband indirectly thru a college friend that had a friend of a friend invite me to a BBQ a few years post college.  So my mixed emotions have to do with how bad the dating opprtunities were and all that goes with that and not really feeling like there were lots of opportunities the have an integrated social environment where you could both have a lot of fun without drinking and have the type of interactions where you meet life long close friends with different ethnic backgrounds.[/quote]

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