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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a very small undecorated house.  We have had a lot of family issues that financially take priority.  I would love to have a bigger, nicer house but that is not our life.

No, I will not babysit in less there is a real last minute emergency if you are not family, close friend or neighbor, take you to the airport (taxi or drive and pay to park which is often cheaper), or jump over hoops to be your friend.

I generally decline as we eat very simply or suggest going out as we have a lot of dietary issues.   But, thankfully, none of our friends are like you who are just reaching out to have favors done in return.  [/quote]

OP here. I have said this several times already on this thread, but let me clarify again. These are not "favors" - they are simply [b]suggestions[/b] for gestures to show that you value the other person's friendship and are willing to put in some effort into the friendship. You may have other ways of putting in effort into your friendships, and that is great. Please feel free to share. 
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OP -- I'm Indian too and I think your mentality is really off putting and old school. It sounds like you're saying -- I hosted a dawat last month, so someone better repay and host me this month. If you can't -- that's ok -- feel free to bring over a box of ladoo or drive me to the airport so I don't have to pay a cab. You keep saying these are just some ways to express friendship and asking how else to express it. Well guess what -- friendship doesn't have to be expressed via things -- food or favors. I express my friendship by calling my friends, checking in on them, seeing how life is going -- that may not involve me bringing them something, driving them something, or making them food -- but I think it means more to people to just be able to talk (email/text whatever).[/quote]

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