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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's entirely possible that this guy is charming in public but an ass in private with her. I once dated a guy who would, say, fight with me in the car on the way to a party to the extent I'd be close to tears, and then go into the party in a great mood. Meanwhile I'd be on edge and looked like the depressed screwed up one bc I couldn't just shrug off his hostility, which no one else saw.[/quote]

Right. Blame the victim. Men don't get emotionally abused. Everyone knows that.[/quote]

NP here.  Seriously, we have no basis for concluding that the guy is being abused, even if the wife does speak negatively about him to her family.  Not every unkind act toward a spouse is abuse.  The conversation he had with OP makes me think he has his share of issues and may well treat his wife poorly and with lot of rage.  I just don't see a guy who isn't somewhat unhinged speaking about his wife that way to her sister.

Bottom line is we don't really know what goes on in someone else's marriage.  If OP's sister is truly a great sister, friend, daughter, etc., my guess is that her attitude toward her spouse is being triggered by something.  Not saying she's totally blameless, but OP should not be so quick to conclude that the sister deserves whatever is coming to her.  [/quote]

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