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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another "tomboy" who begs you not to label her as a tomboy.  Unless she indicates to you that she feels like she IS a boy, then she is a girl.  All girl.

Disliking pink, not being into dresses, liking dinosaurs, enjoying playing with boys -- none of these makes a girl less of a girl.  She's just a girl who likes blue or purple or red and jeans and dinosaurs and playing with boys.

I still hate dresses.  I never wear makeup.  I hate how heels feel. I enjoy jeans and Doc Martens and deep blue.  I've never been into frilly stuff.  But I am very much a woman.  I birthed a baby and nursed him and I'm nurturing and warm and have never felt like I was a man trapped in a woman's body.

What I HAVE felt, though, is ostracized and *wrong* because I didn't conform to gender norms.  I am not less of a woman, but I was made to feel weird because I wasn't into makeup and fashion and pink and all that crap.

For now, can't you just let your girl be your girl who likes other colors and cool toys?  [/quote]

This is almost exactly what I was going to say. I've always felt like a girl, just not a particularly "girly" girl.

For what it's worth, my [b]son chose to wear ponytails, nail polish, and sparkly jewelry when he was younger[/b]. His best friend growing up was a girl, and EVERYONE thought he was a girl, even when he was in "boy" clothes, doing "boy" things. Also (not that gender expression and sexuality necessarily correlate), many people thought he'd "end up" gay. Now he's a teenager with short hair, bland boy clothes, and a girlfriend. Who knew?[/quote]

Sincerely curious: Why would you ever allow a little boy to do this?[/quote]

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