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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is entirely up to your husband and his parents.

You have no say in the matter unless he is signing something that compromises your current assets or takes on new liabilities that would affect your marital financial status.[/quote]

She has no say in what his parents decide to do with their money. But in a marriage, these are the kinds of things you share. You don't keep these kinds of secrets. That the parents want it kept a secret doesn't trouble me, it's that OP's husband is going along with it, and very obviously putting his parents ahead of his marriage. Even if whatever he's signing has zero implications for OP, because she is his wife OP's husband should be willing to open up to her and make sure she's included if for no other reason than to reassure OP that she's not being compromised in some way.[/quote]

After he signs whatever he is going to sign, he should disclose to OP what he obligated himself to - assuming there was an obligation. He should not keep it a secret.

All I am saying is that whether he/his parents want OP there or reviewing the documents ahead of time or prior to him signing the document/s is a call OP's husband must make.

If I were the OP, I would tell her husband that he can go ahead with whatever they want him to sign as long as he does not compromise their current marital assets. He should also understand what he is signing and if he has any doubts that he should seek advice whether from OP or someone else who is qualified.

OP has the absolute right to ensure their marital assets are not impacted. Her husband has the absolute right to agree or disagree with anything his parents want him to sign that affects his rights with regard to their assets. OP has no say when it comes to the terms of disposition of his parents assets.

Keep in mind that OP has acknowledged that her relationship with her in-laws are/have been an issue.

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You're right that ultimately the OP's DH has to make that call, I'm saying that he should respect his wife enough to get a prior understanding of what's going on and not commit himself to anything without talking to her first. If this were something totally innocuous and on the up-and-up, OP's in-laws would be willing to tell him what they need him to sign in advance. After all, in standard estate planning no one needs to sign anything other than the people making the wills/trusts/POAs. That they're not willing to tell him in advance automatically raises suspicion. Further, he's going out there supposedly with no clue what's going to happen, does anyone think this guy is really going to look at the papers and then tell his parents that he needs to go call his wife before he signs? Of course not, if he'd be willing to do that, he's also be willing to find out what this about before he went out there. If it's something that truly has nothing to do with the OP, then he can go ahead and do whatever he likes, and finding out in advance what it's about and talking to his wife doesn't preclude that.

The other possibility is that he already knows exactly what this is about but doesn't want to tell OP. Either way, it's problematic for their marriage that OP's DH is blowing off her concerns.[/quote]

Pretty obvious to me why the parents will not send the documents ahead of time. They don't want OP to influence their son as to what he should do especially given the frayed relationship between them and OP.

Yes, he may know what is in the documents or more likely he knows the reason why they won't tell him or give him an advance copy of the documents is because they have told him that they don't want the OP involved in the matter.

Let us assume that it has to do with making sure any inheritance they leave is completely protected from access by the OP. Should OP have any say in this matter or is it something to be resolved between her husband and his parents? After all, we are not talking about marital assets here and OP should not have any concern about how her in-laws choose to dispose of their assets.[/quote]

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