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[quote=Anonymous]You've enabled a lazy person. Period.

Here's what I would say to her if I were you:

"Suzy, we need to talk. I'm concerned about you. You don't seem happy. Is something wrong? Could you be depressed? The reason I ask is that you don't seem to be enjoying staying home. And I've held back for a while, but the reality is that you don't seem to be accomplishing much at home while the kids are at school. I'm sure you realize that our finances are taking a hit by having you at home, and I'm fine with that if that's what you really want. But I'm not convinced this is the best thing for you or the family."

Then see what she says. I suspect she'll call you an ass and tell you how hard it is to cook and clean and do laundry. And you should call her bluff.

"Honey, I don't expect you to be the maid, but I do expect you to do something during the day. I don't want to fight about this. I just want you to think about whether or not this is working out and also think about whether it might be better for our family if you go back to work."

If she ramps it up, then you bring out the big guns:

"The bottom line is that coming home to a messy house and no food on the table makes me wonder what you've done all day while I was at work. And I don't like feeling this way. It's not good for our relationship."

Then walk away.

Fwiw, I'm a FT working mom. [/quote]

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