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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It depends. [b] "Simply uninterested" doesn't suffice.[/b]  Part of being in a LTR is willingness to share sex when partner is interested.  If you really hate the idea, what's so hard about giving a good BJ (or suitable equivalent if you're male, but somehow I doubt it . . .).  Often Duty Sex turns into something at least mildly enjoyable, at least for me.

-Married almost 50 years
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Uh, no. "I don't want to have sex" is enough reason not to have sex.[/quote]

100% agreed. Please do NOT do anything with me that YOU are simply uninterested in.

But... if you "don't want to have sex" often enough, then I don't want to be monogamous.
It is reason enough to cheat.[/quote]

And cheating is reason enough to get divorced.[/quote]

Exactly! Re-read the post at the top. Divorce is a likely price for being [b]simply uninterested[/b]. Make no mistake if this is your choice, it has consequences.[/quote]

Why would I want to stay married to a man who puts me in front of the choice "Let me force myself on you when you clearly don't want sex, or accept that I cheat"?

You sound like a real prince. Not.[/quote]

Why would he want to stay married to you if you don't feel sex is a natural part of a marriage? I won't even bother saying what you sound like. The point isn't for someone to force themselves on their spouses, but rather for the spouse to find a way to become interested. Sex is a healthy, natural part of a marriage. It's a reasonable expectation. If you're unwilling to meet the basic needs of your partner, why shouldn't they be able to find someone else who will? And before you start talking about how cheating is breaking your vows, as far as I'm concerned so is withholding sex. Not to mention some major bait and switch if you weren't always this frigid.

If you don't want to have sex with your spouse, you need to figure out what the issue is and resolve it.

I probably don't sound like I'm a real prince either. I'm the dw, dealing with a DH who went through a phase where he was uninterested in sex. Our marriage suffered for it and he realizes now how much better things are when our physical (sexual) needs are met. [/quote]

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