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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] :shock: Even if I am not thinking about sex, the fact that my DH gets frisky and starts to kiss me, arouses me almost instantly.  I am assuming that you are getting  bad sex, and that is what you are calling 'duty sex'.

Because no one says 'no' to good sex. The pleasure is its own reward.

My advice would be to have a drink, and SHOW your DH what you want.  Get frisky, change your routine, ask him to put porn on, kiss and fondle him.

Why would I tell any married couple to avoid sex? That is a recipe for disaster.
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DH has to be willing to listen.  What if you told him a hundred times "I don't want to be kissed like this. This doesn't feel good" or "I love oral, can you give me some?", and he still turns a deaf ear?

I used to believe DH when he said he will try.  But he never had.  And now I just don't have any sexual response to him touching me. It's like my body shuts down.  The sad thing is that I've started to think of sex and orgasms as something I do to myself. I haven't cheated and don't know if I would. But damn it would be nice to climax with something other than my own finger. [/quote]

Totally agree.  Some seem to think that people are obligated to have sex with someone who is really bad at it, and unable to comprehend that one person can in fact be really bad at sex.  
In my opinion anyone who believes this is in fact bad at sex themselves and thus are angry that their partner might reject them on the basis of being bad in bed.

The fact is, if you are bad at sex and your partner doesnt want to have sex with you, it's up to you to work hard and improve on that.  If you wont or can't, accept that your partner may not be interested in sex with you and in fact has no obligation to have sex with you. [/quote]

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