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Same thing with the gym, where she refuses to push herself or give herself at the gym.  And that was an issue when we used to work out together.  So it was better that we work out separately.

I just don't see her as being the type of being willing to do what it takes to do something.[/quote]

Man your thoughts are scattered. You should really go to therapy and work through them.

But read through your quote again - do you realize how controlling that sounds? She doesn't work out as hard as you do, so you resent her and have to work out separately? I mean, that's crazy. So it not giving your kid a frickin' bottle and then blaming it on your wife.

The whole thing sounds like about 18 months of therapy for you to understand how you're trying to force another human being to do things and then getting upset when they won't do them, like she's your puppet or something. No wonder it makes you angry that she's working "too much" or whatever.

I'm not disagreeing there might be major problems with her behavior, but you need a major wakeup call to understand your own role in making these things happen.

I actually kind of wonder if you've ever been happy, because people that think about things this way usually just go through life upset that other people won't do that they want or see the world the same way they do.[/quote]

Yeah I know that gym thing would sound kind of weird.

It just kind of describes how I see her and fits into everything else.

I know enough people that live the life that I would like.  Like I said in an earlier post a lot of this comes from different backgrounds.

My family background wasn't that strong.  But it was enough to a point where I know that I wanted my family to be a lot stronger than what I had growing up.

But my wife's family was a lot worse off.  It's probably reflective of most of the people in the area she grew up.  Where when we had issues about this in the past, I pointed out to her out of all of her friends in the social circle from her high school, there is only one family that can be considered happy and successful (in terms of money and career).  And to be frank they have the same issues that I described here and when I told her, it was how I supported the views of that husband.  That couple did end getting counseling and started going to church.

So like I mentioned, it comes down to just being different types of people, backgrounds, and values.[/quote]

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