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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP your post is too vague, yet you've spilled a lot of words. 
What is your wife's Job and what are her actual hours?
Sounds like she is doing a lot and you're the one talking about going home to watch TV instead of picking up the kids. 
How old are the kids?
What's your job and your hours?[/quote]

I'm going to sign off DCUrbanmom and probably won't go back to this thread.

I just became a frequent user of DCUrbanmom relatively recently and it really sucks a lot of time in my day.

Definitely didn't plan to spend all day typing on it today.

Thanks for all of those that sympathized and related or tried to provide some insights or input.

For those that took issue with my point, thanks for that too and providing your point of view.  I'll just stick to I have my values and what are important to me.  And what is important to me is being there to raise my family.

As you all might gather I did not leave work early to go to the court house like I originally planned to do when I left the home this morning.

As for what do I do and my wife does.  That doesn't matter.  If you think I just go home and watch TV all day, you missed the point of my posts.

As for my job.  As mentioned, I purposely stayed at this job that lets me take care of my family.  It pays a lot for what I do and gives me flexibility to take care of my family.  And that's important to me.  That means when the kids are sick and can go and get them without any major issues.  (that flexibility also lets me check DCUrbanmom throughout the day, although today was probably too much)

The inability for me to forget things also makes me good at what I do in my job.  So have gotten unsolicitated higher offers but would require a big impact in my quality of life with my family.  Part of the annoyance was my wife's insistence on my taking the job and we could workout childcare.  But she already proved many times to not able to share the load in the childcare in a way that wanted.  I know others might have a different point of view but it's a serious issue to me when my kids stay at daycare longer than they do at home.  It was also a big issue when the early hours was causing a problem for my oldest kid.

As for what my wife does.  That's not important too.  She knows the problems her hours are causing for our family and is actively seeking out jobs with more family friendly hours.  Unfortunately the offers haven't been coming in.  And she has made an effort to try to come home earlier and does her part in taking care of the kids in the morning and night now.

One important phrase that someone mentiond is, "The family that eats together, stays together"  It might be a play on something else.  But that's important to me and something that I would like to live by.  The happiest day I had in the last several months, was when she was home early enough during the work day(or she might've been at home that day) and I got to live the life that I would've liked after work.  ie having both kids fully attended to and eating dinner together, being able to have the kids in bed on time, etc.

I've been tempted to share everything that I did here on Facebook or with coworkers.  But since society is geared towards the women as being the primary caregivers, I've always held my tongue and never really voiced my opinions or thoughts.  As I can gather from the reaction on here, I see there are many that don't agree.  But the anonymous forum provided me an avenue to share my thoughts without making a direct reflection to my wife for those that know her.  But everything that I posted on here are things that was said to her today and last night as well.
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