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[quote=Anonymous]I am going to throw a hearty second on the daycare thing. Also, moms can check out of their families.

My wife wanted to be a SAHM more than anything. She worked part time with our first and finished grad school and was constantly complaining about how hard everything was. The kicker? I did it all. I did all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, day care drop off, pick up, weekends (mom needed to write) and just basically was a single parent.

With our second, after finishing school, she decided to stay home. I was supportive because honestly I needed the help and thought this would make her happy.

Now, it's another stream of how bored she is, how isolating it is, how stressful being home with a baby is (our toddler goes to full time care basically because she could not handle both kids). It's the most horrific fit because she's terrible with unstructured time and an introvert who becomes a shut in when she stressed (a shut in who complains about being shut in by the way. My pointing out we have gym daycare is lost on her ears).

She's passively looking for work now, but it's just the worst. I still do a massively large amount of work at home, most of the cleaning, shopping, cooking, laundry (nights are spent doing laundry that really could have been run during the day). I actually hired a house cleaner for my own sanity. Nothing and I mean nothing gets done during the day beyond keeping that kid alive. And the second I walk in the door it's a stream from all directions, the kids, the wife, and even the dog (who I just hate).

Sometimes, I feel like I am the only adult in my house.

So, yeah. Daycare is amazing. My second is starting soon and I actually think with an absence of things to complain about my wife might actually do something beyond watching house hunters, playing on her phone, and spinning herself into circles. [/quote]

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