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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does he think, op?  You said he already feels guilty and that this appears to be an accident (he's responsible about this thing usually).  What lesson are you trying to teach him? That $7K is a lot of money? That a family is dependent on each other all doing their jobs?  That you are pissed?  That some mistakes you pay for for a very long time?

What if your spouse had done this thing?  How would your family handle it?[/quote]

If an adult did something which caused $7k in damages or loss, and adult normally would save enough money to replace/fix whatever was lost/damaged.  Those are natural consequences of being neglectful.  Yes, it happens even to adults, and as an adult, we have to figure out a way to pay for it.[/quote]

pp here. Thanks, captain obvious. My question was, how would the FAMILY handle it? Would there be this focus on the responsible party that there is when a kid does it?  Would the money come just from that spouse's salary or would it get absorbed by the common fund? Would the corners cut to pay for it come out of that spouse's interests or would a more collective solution be found?

The natural consequence here seems to be unfolding quite nicely. OP messed up by giving a kid too much responsibility, and now has to pay for it. Might be really powerful to frame it that way to the kid: yes you made a mistake, but so did we by giving you more responsibility than you could afford to cover, and now we are all paying for it. How can we avoid this in the future?[/quote]

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