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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, this has been great advice from you who have BTDT.  I will discuss with husband and have a chat with DD about some changes.

Thanks to the pp who recommended trading reading for screentime.

I'm in health research so read many studies about childhood injury, effects of screen time on sleep and other things, and importance of getting enough sleep.  Getting enough sleep is associated with higher test scores, fewer accidents, normal weight. My DD wants a 10pm bedtime.

I am also sensitive to making her into a freak.  My parents had no problem embarrassing me or making me the out of it kid.  I try not to do that to my kids, within reason.

My kid is the type to push the limits on everything so I will have to go carefully.

DD asked for a Macbook Air for Christmas, was disappointed not to get it. I would not buy a 1k machine for an 11 year old and we don't spend that much on Christmas anyway.  Her best friend got one for Christmas and yesterday spilled a coke on it and now it's sitting in a bag of rice.[/quote]

A few random thoughts:

--Could she get up later in the a.m.? Even 15 min?

--If you let her be in bed by 9 and read till 10, she might fall asleep half the time anyhow. I agree with you on sleep, but if she is stressed and mad at bedtime, I don't suspect that is restful sleep. My son reads with a headlamp, so he doesn't even have to roll over to turn off the light. You do say that you would like her to read more.

--You should read up on trading screen time for reading, and how it affects intrinsic motivation.

--Allowing your child to make requests that you actually consider and then giving in to some can really foster a good relationship, so I think it's good that you posted the question here and are going to continue the conversation. I think you can still have high expectations by being a bit looser. Also, it's good for them to fail and for you teach consequences. So, she might be able to stay up later but if she can't wake up on her own then she loses the privilege. I mean she'll have to do that in the future to get to work on time.[/quote]

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