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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]From OP:  I found out because he didn't come home when he said - he said he was coming home for dinner around 5.  I texted him, no reply at around 8:30.  About 9:30 still no word.  He has heart problems so I'm getting worried.  I go into our phone bill online and I see hundreds of text messages between my husband and this number.  I call the number.  It's this woman's voice mail.  i see on the computer an immediate call going to my husband.  then my husband calls me and orders me not to speak with her.  i said to my husband, she had better speak to me now.  She calls me.  she starts weeping and saying I'm not a bad person, I'm not a bad person."  I said what's going on?  She replies DH is a dear friend.  I asked what does that mean?  Then she spills that he confides in her.  I said like what?  And she goes on about the things in the original post and swears that they are just friends.  So, since I'm getting only denials, I'[b]m dealing with what I know are facts[/b] - that he trashes me when he's out with this woman.  He says he was ignorant that it's an unspoken boundary - that no one knows that you shouldn't go around trashing your wife, that I don't socialize much and this is normal behavior.[/quote]

If you'd led with that story you'd have had a very different thread...it makes it quite clear he is cheating.

You know both more and less than you think here. Less: Just because she said this all to you doesn't make it the full truth. In this version of the story she is no more than a sympathetic listener. More: you know for sure that
They text a lot 
Their texting pattern (since when and times of day)
They both feel guilty enough to be defensive and evasive about their time together
He is gaslighting you in an effort to stop you investigating further

Where was he tonight? If hh, there are receipts.

These two are hiding something. You can try and find out what, or you can decide you don't care. [/quote]

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