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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am planning to talk to lawyers and I have already spoken to some but I need some insight on the interim. And it's not just legal, it's more about what to do in the long term.

H and I are both immigrants waiting for our green cards. It is a fairly long process. I am legal in this country but am not legal to work. We have child.
Long story short, H wants us both to move out. He cannot afford to pay for a separate home for us. I cannot work so cannot do it also.
I can't file for any kind of financial support unless I also file for legal separation or divorce. I cannot file for any of those since this will affect my chances of getting permanent residence. 
H says he will pay child support but only a modest amount. 
this leaves me with three options
1) not to leave. This means being under a lot of pressure psychologically, and possibly being denied any money (worst case scenario: he pays for child needs but gives me no money for my needs). He may be so pissed that he refuses to file for green card for me
2) stay with my relatives in another state. child will go to a good school, I will be better off psychologically, but this is staying at someone else's house with very limited means and it may not work long term. But if it does, I will eventually get a green card and be able to work. It might take a couple years, though.
3) go back to my home country. There's a place of my own, I am legal to work there, I have friends and relatives. But things are not too good there right now, currency plummeted, people lose jobs, etc etc. Not the best political situation, too. Hopefully H will still file for my green card (I don't have to live with him the whole time to get one, it's not the one through marriage)

WWYD?
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Option 2. No question about it. I wish you a lot of strength and perseverance. May it all end well for you and your child.[/quote]

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