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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - this really is a very personal matter of perspective for everyone.  The concept of "forgiveness" is a very fuzzy one for me, and I have come to the conclusion it isn't entirely necessary to move forward.  But I can tell you, [b]there's a certain strength and catharsis from accepting the fact that the people around you, the people you love, can be fallible and complicated, and that they can make mistakes.   Once I worked through the pain and the hurt, I was able to take a deep breath and see myself for the first time - also fallible, imperfect and needing of forgiveness.  [/b]

I can't tell you how much more accepting and loving and generally understanding and connected I am to other people having lived through this.   I feel guilty almost, that I kept my personal situation quite private because others won't know how common this is, and how it truly can make your partnership stronger and happier.

It might sound trite and as PP said, there will always be those who label you as "weak" but this experience has actually ratified all of the reasons I wanted to marry this man in the first place - and why I WANT to stay married to him.  If you can't find the answers to those questions, perhaps you should move on - but look hard first, and give him the chance to grow.

Best to you[/quote]

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