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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here again.

I want to clarify some things. Yes we did have oral. Around 5 or 6 times.

We didnt date traditionally, I guess you can say. After the second date, we were hanging out 2-3 times a week, sometimes more. I spent weekends at his place. When he introduced me, he introduced me as girlfriend to his friends, immediate family, and extended family.

You are right, we never had an actual talk but most don't nowadays. When you are going on several dates a week, sleeping together in some form, going to family weddings, etc. it's normally safe to say you are in a relationship. We never said the word exclusive but had the talk that we weren't seeing anyone else and we both wanted it that way.

I am very hurt because we did have sex; it happened to be amazing! We really just clicked from the start. He was the one who initiated the conversation about dating others and called me his girlfriend.

[b]His explanation was that he made a bad judgement call because he was drunk. He never turned down the fact that I thought we were exclusive. In fact, I was suppose to meet a friend that is an old-ex when he came into town. That was scheduled way before we even met. When I mentioned those plans he told me he would feel it was cheating for me to have lunch with my ex. He knew what he did was wrong. [/b]That is what I have the problem with. [/quote]

I'm a PP from above, who basically said you should speak to him and look for his willingness to take responsibility for his mistake, etc.  The bolded part of your post above clarifies this situation further.  He knew what he did was wrong, yet couches it as "bad judgment" and tells you you're making too big of a deal out of it because nothing actually happened.  No, big no.  Bad response from someone who claims to want a serious and monogamous relationship, and who tells you that a prearranged lunch with your ex (sober, without any intention of sex) would feel like cheating to him. Unless you get a sincere admission of guilt and acknowledgement that you are absolutely within your right to feel angry and distrustful because of this (in a way that leaves you feeling that he "gets it" and is truly remorseful that he really screwed up), you should cut your losses and get out of this short relationship.[/quote]

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