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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's probably lying to get the date and you'll find out later it's all nonsense. Are you beautiful, OP?

If it is true, he still sounds lame for mentioning it.[/quote]

OP here: Am I beautiful? I hate questions like this, because how do you objectively answer them about yourself, but I get the spirit in which it's asked. I am, empirically, better looking than he is. He lists his body type as having "a few extra pounds" and appears to have a little bit of a beer belly and a receding hairline in his photos.

And I agree that if it is true, it's lame to mention.

To be 100% clear here (not because the quoted poster suggested it, but just for everyone) - I'm not looking for a rich guy. I do well enough on my own (certainly not flying private, but am a professional, own my own home, etc.) and I met this guy on a mainstream website, not sugardaddy.com or whatever it's called. I probably wouldn't date a cashier from the supermarket, because I don't wish to finance someone else's life, but the last few guys I've been out with have been all over the place income-wise. One was in banking, another runs a non-profit, another was in sales. This week, I have dates planned with the over-seller, and a veterinarian. Coming from the perspective I am, I am obviously finding the lying (if it's not true) or bragging (if it is) about his lifestyle unnecessary/off-putting. However....

[b]I keep hearing (even on this board) that online dating is difficult for men[/b]. That unless you are flashing your six-pack abs or your fancy car on your profile, the vast majority of women won't even respond to your messages. Some of the guys I work with and I have traded stories, and while I'm easily managing several dates with different men/month, nice, average-looking, professional guys (in particular, the two I know personally are a lawyer and an accountant) are lucky if they get one date every couple of months. Since the over-seller does not have six-pack abs, I'm wondering if bragging about his extravagant life is the only way he feels he can get a date. So I'm trying to keep an open mind for that reason, not because I'm really really hoping he is as rich as he sounds. Though at this point - the alternative - that he's a liar - is not really someone I see myself dating either. [/quote]

That is because as with the rest of society, men generally make the first step and guys will email every woman with the hope that they get a response, which means women are saturated with choices.  I tell my guys friends to stop wasting their time with this sh#t and go where there are a lot more women than men - cultural events, book clubs, etc.  And at least the fringe benefit for them is they might learn something instead of work, sports, and the usual.....[/quote]

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