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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sick and tired about hearing about the good old days when kids supposedly didn't have these disorders. Kids absolutely had these disorders, they just weren't treated for them. I am related to some of those kids, now adults, whose lives have been completely stunted by issues that today would be diagnosed and treated. They've had really, really challenging lives. There is no way in hell I would allow my child to suffer like that.

if you think back to when you were a kid I'll bet you can remember some of these kids. They seemed stupid or weird. You didn't hang out with them. They ended up on a different track. Where are they now? Who knows, but not where you want your own child to be.

Seriously, I think some of you have such ignorant blinders on that you don;t even think through what you post.[/quote]

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My 50yo brother is a case in point.  [b]Highly-educated and intelligent..Underemployed, disorganized, lone wolf, constantly losing things, forgetting things.  How different his life might have been with support when he was young.[/quote][/b]

Or not....sometimes I think one of the reasons ADHD is so readily embraced by parents is that it seems to excuse so many of the shortcomings that held them back.  This is no different than any parent who tries to relive life through their kids and do it right, this time.  Oh, if only I'd had adderall when I was young, I would have finished some of those projects, gotten organized, made friends, and I wouldn't feel like such a failure today.....except what you don't know and what we all don't know about our medicated children, is what a brain will be like after 30 + years of medication that began when said brain was still forming.

Has it every occurred to anyone that everyone wasn't meant to be focused, organized, surrounded by people, etc.?  Everyone isn't meant to do well in school or have a high-powered job that fully utilizes all their skills and makes them delirious with glee and IT DOES NOT MATTER.

Why must we have to destroy a generation to realize our folly?[/quote]

Do you have a developmental disorder? Do you have a close relative who was never treated for a developmental disorder? Have you ever experienced depression? Sure, maybe people were "meant" to suffer with these disorders. Maybe people are also "meant" to suffer with cancer. But I would never, ever allow a child of mine to suffer if treatment was available.

And you know what, neither would you. I'm certain of it. You love your children and you do not want to see them suffer. You can be smug about all this from afar because you don't know what you are talking about.

I have seen the "destroyed" generation. They are in my family. You don;t see these folks because they fall away from your world, they live marginal lives. But they are there.[/quote]

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