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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I won't ask.  But when I said I finally had to say "we are trying", I think it is relevant that my husband and I actually got pregnant within 2 years of getting married and within 4 years of beginning our relationship.  [b]So my frustration with my family was that they wanted a honeymoon baby and I wanted a little married life before kids.  I basically got home from the honeymoon and the henpecking started.[/b]  Little did I know that I actually couldn't have gotten pregnant at that time.  I only learned about the fertility issues after trying for a while (cuz that is how it works).

I am just reminded of the thread on here a few weeks ago where a person without kids asked about people being hostile to people who don't want kids.  I am not hostile but I just wonder if they have made a choice--it is normal to wonder.  They have been together a long time and they aren't getting any younger.

As I said, I won't ask and whoever said if I have to ask if it is ok, then it probably isn't, is right. [/quote]
So why in the hell would you even think of asking them?[/quote]

You are a dolt.  They have been together for a decade!  Living together for a decade.  My husband and I started living together after we got engaged.  On our wedding day we had been living together 6 months.  Wanted some time for fun and travel.  I think there is huge difference between 6 months and 10 years.[/quote]

NP here.  Omg, OP, you are the definition of a self-centered asshole.  "SIL is not acting exactly the way I did!!! She owes me an explanation!!! It's so unfair that she won't tell me WHY WHY WHY she is acting like this!  We're all wondering and therefore we are entitled to this information!  It's an elephant in the room, not in my mind, because I can't stop thinking about it!  Me me me!!!"

For fuck's sake.  The status of her womb and her plans for it have NOTHING to do with you.  If she or your brother wanted your baby shit, they would have asked you to save it.  They don't.  If they ever have a baby, they'll buy their own shit.  You are not entitled to an update on their decision making or their thought processes.  You don't know what the state of their marriage is, whether there have been problems, whether any of them have health issues, whether either of them is struggling emotionally, or whether their goals in like have changed and they don't OWE you this information!  So stop being miffed.

Your family sounds like they have serious boundary issues and are incredibly enmeshed and inconsiderate.  I feel bad for your SIL.  I'm glad you say you won't bring this up but for fuck's sake get a life and start thinking about something else.  So she likes cuddling babies.  Most people do.  Your vacation need not be affected in any way if she cuddles a baby in front of you and then does not choose to begin a discussion about her reproductive choices.[/quote]

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