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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ahhhh.  OK.  I do think knowing the ages helps to put this more in perspective.  Personally I think I would talk with your husband about being concerned the two of you are not connecting emotionally.  I would leave the cousin out of the discussion.

The cousin is 25.  That is young and I'm going to guess she is not in a serious relationship.  I think if you are patient and give this some time, it is going to die a natural death.  I would work on building your relationship with the younger cousin -- it sounds like you are already friends.  I think in about 10 years she's going to come to you and say something like, you must have wanted to kill me when you first got married!  [/quote]

Cousin is engaged, has a professional career, as well as working toward her PhD. I really don't see this situation ever changing because it so much of a normalcy for them. She had a brother that was the same age as DH and he died 12 years ago when cousin was 13. I think DH tried to fill the brother's spot and it's just turned into a sibling relationship, but it's the kind that twins have where they are creepily connected and talk telepathically at the dinner table. I think I'll take solace in the fact that it's his cousin and not some girl from high school/college/work that he's texting and calling all the time. He may not be totally connected to me, but at least he's not cheating.[/quote]

Um, this is a huge part of the equation here that you left out. Her brother died when she was a kid and your husband stepped in to fill that role? They have a sibling relationship. Get over it.[/quote]

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