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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]is it possible they were having an affair?[/quote]

I'm going to assume you mean emotional affair rather than physical. I don't think you can really classify cousins in the emotional affair category. It just seems that their connection and our lack of connection says something bad about our relationship. It's not as if he's someone who just doesn't connect, [b]he just doesn't really with me. [/b]We are also in his town with his friends, so I see how he is with everyone else constantly.[/quote]

BAM! This is the issue we're all trrying to point out. marriage counseling and deep talks with your DH- stat. The other stuff is just noise.[/quote]

I'm beginning to agree with this. The big issue (besides convincing him to go, which the cousin would actually help me do), is we just don't have the time. He is a regional account manager for a major brand and travels every single day. He might drive 3 hours in the morning to see one client and then turn around and drive to the other side of the state to see another and get home at 8 or 9 that night. I have regular hours and work primarily out of one location, or at the least another location in the city, so I could make it work. It is DH's first year in this position and that has put a lot of stress on him. I don't know that I can ask him to add more right now.[/quote]

I am the "BAM" poster. I'm just an internet stranger who has heard a limited part of the story, but I also suspect, f I do say so myself, that I have more experience/perspective on this sort of thing that you do at the moment. And I am telling you, strongly, that you marriage (if you think that emotional intimacy and partnershhip are important parts of marriage, which I am assuming you do) may depend on figuring out the logistics here, and the sooner the better.

One possibility is starting just on your own with a coach and/or therapist.[/quote]

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