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[quote=Anonymous]OP your post has me wondering -- what is your life like in DC? Do you and your DH have friends, separate from his family? Do you have your own girlfriends? Are kids involved in activities and do you know their friends' parents?

I guess I'm wondering if you've fallen into a set up where your DH works 5-6 days a week and then whatever free time you guys have together is spent with his family that has moved to town? If that's the case, I could see how you would be feeling like -- you get your ideal job, your family etc. and while 2 hrs isn't a big deal, anything we want to do with my friends or fam is a "special occasion" that has to be planned a month in advance. I've seen this pattern happen and unless is spouse totally views the in laws as their own fam (or doesn't care), it does built up resentment. Just bc his family is local doesn't mean that your own nuclear family shouldn't have its own weekend plans. That's what will make DC feel like YOUR home, rather than Richmond which is your parents' home.

I have a friend who is dying to move back to Pa. with her DH (both from the same hometown so different issues that yours) and they've never considered DC their home despite living here for 10 yrs, buying a house and having 2 kids. As I've gotten to know them more, it's clear that a big part of the reason is that they work a lot and on maybe the 2 weekends a month they are not working, they pack up the car to head "home" to Pa and stay in her parents' house. They haven't cultivated any kind of social life in DC. In their case, they'll be forced to create a life here for a little while as their DD who is now in 1st grade likes going to Pa to visit grandma/grandpa/aunts/cousins etc. but is also wanting to play soccer, go to classmates' birthdays etc. which is forcing my friends to stick around DC on the weekends and genuinely decide whether they want to develop a life here or not.[/quote]

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