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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Straight OP here. #rolls eyes
I'm not gay. My child is 6 so adopting a newborn isn't out of the realm of possibility and they won't be too far apart in age if I attempt it next year. Biological isn't really something I'm considering at this time.

I know expat men prefer young local women but I'm considering Africa not Asia. I'm hopeful that this might be different. PP mentioned the East African secret. Anyone else know about this??

Finances really are the issue though. I need to make more. All I have is my house, but to be honest moving to a US city where I know no one seems daunting and stressful. At least overseas it's easier to connect with people..[/quote]

What's going on in East Africa is male prostitution. Euro women pay men to pretend to be their boyfriends whenever they visit. Some hand over money at the start of the trip so that the men can "pay" for everything. I am the early 30s woman, single mom, living abroad. African men...if you're willing to sponsor someone's pursuit of a green card, have at it! You will be a magnet for men who are eager to "settle down" and marry. I am a black woman, so I blend in as a local where I am. I can't tell you how many times I have witnessed it register on a flirtatious local man's face that I am American, as if God has blessed him with a meal ticket. I've seen local men totally take advantage of single expat women who are not used to regular male attention. Are all guys looking for a come up? Of course not. But if he's poor, which most men will be in your typical African post...well good luck with that. I date local guys (and Americans) and I will only date men with a current US visa, at a minimum. I target areas where native men with US or dual citizenship tend to hang. I look for professional circles. You CAN find a good guy. I have friends who have been successful (marriage to a decent guy). But it takes patience and a sense of humor. There's a Ghanaian online sitcom that describes many of the experiences my friends and I are having. It's called "An African City" and its on YouTube. Hilarious!!!

https://www.youtube.com/user/AnAfricanCity

The money is great, I can't lie. I have fun, I enjoy our life here, but it takes effort.[/quote]

Thank you so much for this! Good advice, sage advice and you are giving me hope. I wonder if it's easier in West Africa. For some reason I feel as if men there are more open to dating westerners. In any event, thanks so much for that link! I can't wait to check that series out. Looks fascinating! Where are you posted? Ghana?[/quote]

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