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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DS, who is 5, insists that he is gay and is going to marry a man.  I'm fine with it if that's  actually the case, but I suspect he may just want to be like our neighbors, who are a gay couple.  [/quote]

My big sister was once married to an abusive dickhead, so her son assumed that marrying a woman would make him like his dad and resolved to be gay like his uncle (me). That faded in middle school when everyone was "dating" people of the other sex, but then he came out again last year in 10th grade. Great kid and also not stereotypically gay at all-star of the soccer team from what I hear, and wants to become a sports manager. I also have a friend with a trans daughter, who came out around age 8 I think and has been fully accepted by everyone around her. My friend said she had absolutely no idea, there were no "warning signs," and actually had a long period of depression over her guilt that she'd raised her daughter "wrong" for seven years. That's what hurts me so much reading about the Leelah Alcorn girl-identity can be such a tricky thing and in a sense I think her parents knew what their behavior was was wrong, but it was their feeling that God had messed up that prevented them from fulling accepting their child. You feel like it's feelings versus what should be, and that can never lead to true confidence. Nonetheless, we're moving into an age where accepting your child for whoever they might be is not only the norm but the only reasonable societal response, and that makes me truly happy. My coming out journey was remarkably easy [b]("Mom, I have a boyfriend" "What's his GPA? Does he drink? Bring him over for dinner and invite his parents") [/b]but there are many others who can't say that. I knew this gay woman once who used to steal hotel and church bibles in huge quantities and burn them because she was so angry at the religious movement against same-sex equality. It's true the church did some really bad shit and said some things no person should ever hear about themselves, but I believe people who can find it in their hearts to love others no matter who they are can and have fixed those things, and will continue to do so into the future. Parents on here, the only thing you have to do is raise your child. You can't change their sexual orientation and honestly it doesn't really matter. The day when gay or straight or trans or girl or boy or whatever else becomes as much of a big deal as your eye color is the day I will be truly happy.[/quote]

Take it from that guy, parents. The only reaction or sentiment necessary is to treat the SO like anyone else, or if there is no SO just be nice and help your child. I've got a gay brother and a gay niece-when my brother came out, my mom made shut the front door in his face and told him to go sleep out at the hospital with the other AIDS perverts (he moved in with our dad across town who already had partial custody.) When my niece came out, my sister asked her if she had a girlfriend (sort of, aka no), had they had sex (sort of, aka yes) and did she love her (sort of, aka no), just like with any other child. My brother had a tough time with acceptance for years, pretended to be straight for a while, and finally has settled down with his identity and I met his BF over Thanksgiving. My niece is still young but she's beend ating the same girl for three years. It all works out if you love 'em.[/quote]

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