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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I truly have no words. My husband was there, too, and said nothing. We are at our house and they are visiting from out of town. d I know I should have said something at that moment, but I was just caught so off-guard. She often makes comments about what I eat (I weigh about 12 pounds more than I did when I got married 13 years ago) and what other adults eat, but this is the first time she said anything about my kids. According to my MIL, I always make waaayyy too much food and, once, when I told her the chicken piccata I was making was Ree Drummond's recipe (Pioneer Woman) she looked at me and smirked and said, "Ewww. Her food is so fatty and so gross." [b]I'm going to go and have a talk with my husband right now. [/b] The saddest part of all of this is that my mother who was just incredible passed away a few years ago. My kids and I are now stuck with this. [/quote] I was totally with you until this part. She said it and you're going to "have a talk with your husband?" WTF? The talk you need to have is with her. In no uncertain terms she will be told never to utter such a remark again to you or your children, or to anyone else ABOUT you or your children. And if she ever DOES do that again, she will be seeing a lot LESS of you and her grandchildren going forward. You deliver that message, not your husband. Or, ideally, you do it together. United front.[/quote] It's her [b]MIL[/b] - not her own mother. Of course it should be DH who speaks to her, it's HIS mother. Sure, DIL can be there, but it's DH's responsibility to make sure HIS mother does not continue doing such awful things. I don't understand your reasoning. When my parents did some awful things to my kids it was me who told them to quit it, not my spouse. Every advice columnist who's ever answered questions about in-law problems suggests that the child is the one who should speak to his/her own parent about the problem, not the daughter-in-law or son-in-law. [/quote]
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