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I don't understand why you are all attacking this women. To each their own choice. Remember: is the kid loved? is the kid abused? if the answer is yes and no, keep the judgment for yourself[/quote]

That is just your opinion.

My opinion is if you are spending 70 hours at work each week, that is a form of abuse to your child.  When you have children, your career should come 2nd....or 3rd.  Not 1st.

My daughter comes 1st always.  If my job wanted me here for 50-70 hours a week, I'd find a new job FAST.  There are enough jobs out here that will allow you to work 40 hours and still advance.  The rest is just BS excuses for workaholics trying to justify how their priorities never change when they have a family.

A lot of parents (who actually were there for their kids and not at work) will tell you that children only grow up once.  You don't want to look back when they are graduating college and think, damn.....I didn't see this kid truly grow up.  I just went to work, made money, and came home when they were asleep.

My father was home by 5 most nights.  He raised two kids on his own.  He could have easily worked later, advanced more, and maybe made more money while paying the nanny to stay later.   But family was important to him.  So he invested wisely, worked hard, was a terrific father who was there for us, and was still able to retire comfortably.

Watching my father "work hard" is not what I look back and see.  I see the father that loved us, spent time with us, took us to soccer, coached teams, etc.  Those were the lessons that stuck with us and made us who we are today.  Not that he "worked hard at work".  [/quote]

This doesn't work anymore.

Most middle age workers in my company got fired over last 5 years, and replaced with contracting firms, temp help, and guest workers.   We are on call 24 by 7, and have no job security.  Work force is changing over to a temp based work force and that means you work whenever someone wants you to work or you get replaced.

Tell me what industry will hire 40 year olds and 50 year olds, does NOT happen where I work.  InfoSys, Tata, Cognizant and Accenture will never hire older workers.

[i]Its totally up to you, and how you want to be treated. Its these desi companies, that sue you when you ditch them for a better rate. Well, I dont blame them too. Most desis have the mentality and screw and run, and we will do anything to get few extra dollars. So, I dont blame these desi companies being extra cautious.[/i][/quote]

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