Reply to Anyone have experience with borderline personality disorder?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Anyone have experience with borderline personality disorder?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not trying to hijack, but to the PP who thinks s/he may have BPD. I did as a teenager and young adult and now don't.

It took years of work.  Like you, I knew there was something wrong with the way I interacted with people, but I couldn't stop myself from lashing out. And yes, I was emotionally manipulative because I had no confidence that people would stick around and be kind and there for me unless I manipulated them into doing so. I had no faith in myself or others.

At the time, I don't believe there was DBT. I tried talk therapy and it was useless. What worked was being relentlessly self aware and honest with myself. I would also model behavior of friends whom I admired. I sought their advice on how to handle conflict. I made all kinds of rules for myself, like the sleep on it rule, the 10-second rule, etc. Now these things are second nature for me. But at the time it was all foreign.

I also read and put into practice the book "Learned Optimism" by Martin Seligman. I practiced rewiring my brain. And I got on an SSRI to manage my anxiety.

I couldn't be more different now then I was 20 years ago. Happily married, great kids and friendships, the drama and conflict that pretty much defined my young adulthood is now just a difficult memory. GL
[/quote]

Wow.  Good for you that you caught it early and were surrounded by people who cared enough to tell you the truth.  I think you are probably the rare exception, from what I can gather.[/quote]

New PP here. This is interesting. I too had elements of BPD, although mild, when I was younger. My mother was borderline but died when I was in my teens. I too have worked hard to develop better coping behaviors and re-wire my brain, and I'm a different person today than in my early years. Therapy helped me. Also, I was fortunate to have some good people in my life who showed me my fears of abandonment weren't necessary. I've since read that there's some research suggesting that some people outgrow their BPD as they reach middle-adulthood. This is something to think about too. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics