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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Having btdt with the whole low minute thing (needing to leave enough so that my kids could get a hold of me if they needed to), it's possible that she came across abrupt and rude. When really what she was saying was the truth - "I want to talk to you, but I can't talk long on this phone because it's about to go dead". When she got to a phone that she could call you from, YOU ignored her call because you "don't like drama".

Honestly, you sound like a bit of a pill yourself. Sorry.[/quote]

I don't think you read carefully.  The OP offered to call her sister at home, and when the sister said she wasn't home, asked her where she was so that she could call her.  This caused the sister to take great offense.  You shouldn't call people names if you didn't even bother to read their post.[/quote]

Her sister was probably annoyed (stressed!) that Op, who had basically called to chat, kept asking her questions knowing that her minutes were rapidly disappearing as they spoke.  After they hung up, it sounds as though sis replayed the conversation in her head and felt bad about her abruptness - tried to smooth things over "I want to talk to you!" but Op had already gone into sulk mode - Apology not accepted! And all poor sis was trying to do was pick up milk before her kid got out of school...

Now Op is the wronged victim.  And sis is a big old meanie.  Well - I will be the lone one to say.  Nope.  Op, you sound high drama.  Sorry.[/quote]

You are entitled to your opinion.  If my sister was stressed about her minutes, she was under no obligation to answer the phone in the first place.  She could have texted to let me know that and asked me to call her at home.  That is what someone who values relationships and other people would do.  You sound just like my sister, making excuses for rudeness when really, there are none.  You honestly have nothing of value to add here and you've made your point.  [/quote]

You called HER out of the blue and you seriously believe that it is her fault that she didn't explain her minute situation in detail beforehand?  Most people have btdt with the minute situation.  It's not an uncommon thing.  And YOU were incredibly rude for making a fed case out of something so..stupid.  How dare she answer her own phone.  Lady - you need to get a grip.[/quote]

Wow.  It's now an offensive thing to call a family member - OUT OF THE BLUE, NO LESS - to ask how they are doing?  And it's perfectly acceptable to bite that person's head off if your minutes are low?  Amazing.  This world is full of really screwy people.  OP's sister is obviously in good company.[/quote]

Good grief. It's fine to call someone out of the blue.  But when they say "Hey, I'm low on minutes can you speed it up?"  you don't act like you've just been stabbed in the eye with a fork.  You realize that your long distance call is draining their minutes and you don't keep yammering on about making arrangements to chat.  Especially when you are supposedly calling the person out of concern for THEM.  I am the only one who sees this?  Wow.

And I was a psych minor in college, lol.[/quote]

Yes. You are the only one who thinks the OP is a pill and high drama for asking one question. And did you slide right over the part where the sister said it was a perfectly fine time to talk? Would you say that if you were low on minutes? You just aren't right at all here.[/quote]

O.k. it would be weird for a person who is stressed out about their minutes being drained to say - Oh, this is a good time to talk.  I think what sis meant is - the time is fine (I want to talk to you!  I'm not too busy!), but the situation with my minutes is bad.  It can be aggravating when something so obvious needs to be explained in great detail to a person who, for whatever the reason, feels personally dissed by it.  But sis couldn't breathe minutes into her phone - it was the reality she was dealing with in that moment in time.  [/quote]

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