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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Of course your in laws are pissed, they are used to having uou around ALL the timw. I think you are being more than reasonable. [b]The rotating holidays seems rather unfair to your family.[/b] If I were you, I would want to rework the whole schedule. Obviously you will always see your inlaws more because they live nearby, but it sounds like your parents are getting screwed because the in laws are greedy. If you will see them for an entire week around new years, that seems to be quite enough family time over the holidays. AND you spend thanksgiving with them?? That is crazy. I would want thanksgiving with the inlaws and Christmas with my parents every year, or alternate holidays so one year your family gets the week over new years and the next they get Christmas. [/quote]

its not though, and I say this as someone who is having a harder time living a 5-6 hour drive away from family the older I get, so I get it that it FEELS like you should get priority when you are the one farther away from family.

Here is the rub though, a big part of the reason people choose to stay closer to their hometowns is because they want a more routine involvement with family, that shouldn't mean you don't get special times with them too, in fact that closeness is part of the reason for staying close, to be close on holidays AND regular times. Its not unfair to want to spend a holiday with your parents or siblings just because you also have made choices to keep them closer during non holiday times.

Like I said, I am actually on the traveling spouse side of things and I don't think its unfair to my family if we are with DHs family. 
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