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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you have got everyone confused.  What do you mean you "alternate holidays"?  You alternate Christmas and your in-laws always get Thanksgiving?  That does seem like your parents aren't getting much.  Why do you never see them for Thanksgiving.

The best decision my family EVER made was to move our big get-together to August.  We have a beach weekend, it is great fun, and everyone's off the hook for the winter holidays.  Peace and joy is the result.[/quote]

sorry yes. We don't alternate holidays, we only alternate Christmas. DH's family gets all the other holidays and then every other year my family gets Christmas. [/quote]

I see.  Well, it makes sense that your parents are not satisfied with this.  Clearly, you need to come up with a better schedule.  But pulling the rug out from your in-laws' Christmas in mid-December is not the way to go.  Seriously, if your parents are ok without you the 24th-28th, take their word for it.  Sounds like that's the best solution this year.  You and your DH can discuss it in January.  It takes some time and experience to get these arrangements ironed out!  But it sounds like you both need to be better at communicating, planning proactively, and setting boundaries with relatives.[/quote]

OP here. So I am the bad guy? This is just really stressful. We've tried so hard to come up with a better schedule but it doesn't work for anyone.

I just really thought spending Christmas Eve and Christmas with his family and then traveling back and hosting a Christmas for my parents was a great compromise. I just wish we could see them all at once. I have tried putting my foot down and offering to host, but neither will come at the same time. [/quote]

You are not the bad guy. You are awesome., I would do the same. Take two cars and drive back on Christmas to see your family. Your husband can stay with his. [/quote]

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