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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not that PP. But seriously, move on OP. People told you it was normal, you don't think it is, and that's your personal paradigm. So you either suck it up or learn to think it's normal. Or break up with your boyfriend and go be somebody else's "first string" since you said yourself you feel second string. [/quote]

You have no reading comprehension, because it's been stated several times that no, I don't feel like his second string. I also said I felt it was different and didn't now if it was normal because I've never been in this situation, and I'm seeing now that it's not uncommon, and thanked those people who shared their experiences. Reading EVERYTHING and not cherry picking segments to bolster your argument would be helpful to contributing to this discussion.

And for not being the same PP, you share the same writing style and language.[/quote]

12:10 here and yes, second string was YOUR language in your original post. No cherry picking here.[/quote]

These are just my replies from the first 1 1/2 pages:

1) I know I'm not 2nd string to him by any means. He didn't marry her after 7 years and a kid, and he could have pursued having them back together and he didn't. I just wonder if his family thinks of me as, essentially, a nice enough replacement for the woman they wish he was with,

2) If he wanted to be with her, I'm quite certain that could have happened, and it didn't, so again, I don't think HE considers our relationship that. I'm wondering if HIS FAMILY does. And, really, his opinion of that is the only one that actually matters. But family is important to both of us, and I would like to feel "accepted" from his extended family, if that makes any sense.

3) But apparently, that's normal, so I'll adjust my expectations on that. Thank you for the insight from everyone!

I was referring to completely ignoring those statements made within the first page and a half of replies, which clearly shows I feel that neither HE with me nor I with him think OUR relationship is second string. And that comment was directly attributable to his family. Which is what the entire thread is about...what is normal with the FAMILIES. And further, that after the replies I got, I said I'd adjust my expectations. This was all 2 pages ago. The add on since then is that I'm jealous and pouty and defensive and psycho and I need to get out of the relationship. That seems extreme over asking what families interest in an ex after a break up is.[/quote]

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