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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All this talk about children finding out is pretty f*cked up.

My ex cheated.  I would NEVER, EVER tell my DD about it.  She is  young and doesn't need to know these kinds of things.  Maybe when she is over 18 and wants to know what happened, I'll fill her in.  But even then, does it matter?  I want her raised to respect both her mother and myself.  And as long as she is a good mother to my daughter, then I'm fine.  I'm not going to try and influence how my child sees her mother......that is immature.

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You are a fool if you think your kids will never find out.[/quote]

Never finding out is one thing.  Of course they do.  But if you immediately tell them that mom cheated with another man while they are 10 years old....you are a horrible parent. And I know people do it in hopes to turn their children against their ex too.

Cheating has ZERO to do with the kids.  So there is no reason to tell them.[/quote]

I agree with you in theory. But in reality cheating can create immense changes for the kids. Cheated on spouse may decide to divorce, a baby could be born out of the affair, cheated on spouse could get an STD, etc. plus all financial implications that will affect what kind of life the kids will have. I don't see any good from sharing these things with little kids, but it's also not fair for the cheated on spouse to carry a burden that was solely caused by the cheating person's mistakes. [/quote]

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